Survival of the Teeth Monster

This is real life. I wasn’t prepared for this. In fact I felt like I was prepared for everything but teething. No one mentions it and i’m starting to understand why. Im also starting to realize why babies were created so cute, because if they weren’t and they came out grown and could talkback our population might decrease into extinction.

Teething is not for the faint of heart and this is where I believe stay at home moms have one of the hardest most rewarding jobs in the world. When the teething monster hits, you have what seems to be this doctorly instinct called Google that you are ferociously seeking through wondering what is going on with your child.

“Does he have a virus, is it a growth spurt, did he get enough sleep, is he tired, hungry, did he poop?” and then you always read the worst case senerio and your mind races. But it is just in fact he or she has a tooth that is trying to cut through many layers of gum… ouch.

Remember when you went through the daunting experience of your wisdom teeth coming in? Or maybe you luckily didn’t have to. That ish hurts so now your bitty baby is going through that with multiple teeth. NOW BREATHE.

It is for a very short amount of time although it seems like an eternity. In fact some little babes don’t even skip a beat. But my child he skipped all the beats and went straight into pitiful mode. Which breaks my heart.

So the joys of being a stay at home mom?

  1. You get to know your child. You know if he’s teething vs. a virus. You know when he’s grumpy from being tired vs. cutting teeth.

  2. You get all the sick cuddles. SOAK THEM UP. Coming from experience now that my child is on the move. He finds everything to do but cuddle so anytime he dives his head into my chest I soak it up.

So how do you survive teething?

  1. Where the babe. Just do it. You think you can put enough cooling gel to take away the pain when really all they want to do it be close to you. So strap em on and go on with your day, its gonna be a long one.

  2. Frozen washcloths. This was a game changer. He wants to chew on anything to get it to go away but nothing seems to work. Until he put the frozen washcloth to his gums and he instantly stopped crying. It also kills two birds with one stone and soaks up the gallons of drool that pours out your Childs mouth.

  3. Here are a few tips some of my other mama friends recommended that might help you through! Copaiba essential oil rubbed directly on their gums, frozen milkcicle, mesh feeder with frozen fruit, amber teething neckless, and cosleeping (some do not agree with this but in this case you do whats best for you and your baby!)

I wish you happy teething and hope those teeth come in as strong as ever!

Much love

AngJO

I Stay At Home And My House Doesn’t Stay Clean

It’s the stereotypical stay at home mom, dinner on the table at 5:30pm sharp the moment dad walks in, laundry is done and put up in the same day, the house is spotless. 

I guess I’m not the stereotype because I’m doing all I can to make sure the laundry goes from washer to dryer so the don’t stay in there to long much less folded and put up all in the same day. 

But I do have a few cleaning hacks that make this mama sane because there’s nothing I love more than a spotless clean house but that’s just not practical 99% of the time.

ROBOT: just take my word it is well worth the money. I wasn’t a believer until I had a baby and could never find time to vacuum. Now I can be doing laundry and dishes all while the entire house is being vacuumed. Because let’s be honest with a crawling baby any tiny thing on the floor goes straight to the mouth so the importance of it staying clean is a priority.  

PRIORITIZE NAPTIME: Nap time rolls around and you are doing meaningless task and get so mad when you feel like you get nothing done. Everyday I either write out or know it my head what exactly has to get done whether it’s 30 minute or 3 hours long. Most of the time it’s:

1. Throw on a load of laundry since it takes no time.  

2. Throw all the toys in the baskets. I always keep 3 baskets in our living room for easy clean up. 

3. Wipe down kitchen counter  

4. If dishes need putting up or loading  

5. Once I do a straighten up of the house and he’s still asleep then work starts! I can never start work until my house is cleaned up.  

Now since every day is different and sometimes it’s important to prioritize a nap for yourself before the house DO IT! There are no rules. If the house is not spotless you are no less of a mama. Some nights are more demanding and some days are too so take it in stride brew the coffee try to drink it before it gets lukewarm and take on the day mama!

 

How To Survive The First Week Of Motherhood.

I mean I'm just gonna go ahead and throw this out there. There is not thriving in the first week. You are merely in survival mode to make it through. 

Do not get me wrong it is beautiful and I'm 99.9% sure you are purely running off of adrenaline, shock, and the cuteness and reality that your life is changed by this bundle of joy. For some moms is comes easy, for others postpartum depression is real. But DO NOT let your journey, either good or bad shape think of yourself as a mom. 

You are new to this. Your life has been forever changed in the best way possible so take each day and night in strive and just get through the first few weeks. 

My best tip and advice I have given to every new mom since having Van has been...

1. TAKE A SHOWER EVERY DAY. I know this seems beyond silly but lets be honest your body just underwent some seriously beautiful but honestly gross things. You do not feel like yourself in fact you feel completely dirty with the bloody mess (just be honest). So do yourself a favor and take a shower whatever you do every single day. Call hubby, mom, dad, brother sister, cousin or stranger (JK), anyone over to let you get a minute to yourself and clean up. You will feel refreshed and recharged no matter the lack of sleep (there will be lack of sleep). 

2. Do not hesitate to ask for help. So I am one hundred percent independent. Like the song... yeah thats me. So naturally I didn't want or honestly need that much help. I thrive off of how much I can get done. So while he was napping I would straighten up and rest and felt like a new person. But in the case your body doesn't bounce right back which in most cases it does not. So do not think you will. Have in place a plan like your husband or mom taking off for a week to help you just in case!

3. Do not feel bad if you're not getting the hang. Its weird. Its new. So many books and magazines and articles have thrown a million schedules and things to do and not to do. But ultimately you will figure out your baby the best. Take advice lightly and figure it out. Not all advice is good advice. 

You're crushing it mama. Its not the easiest thing in the world. If it was the men woulda done it ;) (JK) but in all honesty take it slow. Figure it out! You're a mama and thats the greatest gift! 

 

A Mom Posing In Her Bra?

You’re scrolling through insta and BAM there you see Van and myself all half naked and what not. You think WHY? or She shouldn’t be doing that she’s a mom for goodness sake. Ya know I thought the same thing for the longest until...

The messages began to flood in of moms pouring out their hearts of how their confidence was shot after having kids, now they have a whole new respect for their bodies and their self because well I posed half naked in front of a camera with my child.  

Is it normal? No. Is it worth it? Every single time. Do I feel comfortable? About as comfortable as you running into one of your exes for the first time. But every time I’m reminded of why I’m passionate about body positivity. All body positivity yes but mostly for my fellow tiger striped mamas who do all they can do to get themselves ready much less go and workout.  

My message, my passion, is to make the Mamas of the world confident again. We’re in a day and age that your highlight real is not actually real. It is ladies who are unattainable and way to far gone through photoshop. But we sit there and compare ourselves. “Man I wish I looked that great when I walked out of the hospital.” Well I’m a real mom here telling you its ok to not feel the greatest about yourself the mere seconds after birthing your child. Your body just went through a life changing experience so take a moment to breathe. But its not OK to continue to speak lies into yourself about how your body “use” to be. Yes you may have been skinner, the number lower, the edges toner but now you have a bundle or multiple bundles of joys who your body created. Who your body birthed and now keeps alive. It is an amazing miracle and I will never get over it. 

So today lets create a wave of encrouagement for the working, stay at home, and all around mamas of the world. You are a hero. Know that today and believe it. Believe in yourself that you are beautiful my friend.  

 

The Diary Of A Working Mom

Oh your going back to work? Will you even have enough time to stay at home? How does that even work? Are you taking on to many roles?

‘The questions flooding through not only my head but tons of people around me as I launched the start of a new design company. I have a passion. But is it OK to have several passions? I have a passion for raising my babies but I also thrive off of new design and making something out of nothing. I also have a passion for being a homemaker and being the best wife possible to my husband. 

So why is it only acceptable for moms to either stay at home or work? Today I’m rallying around my fellow boss moms and saying let’s start a new norm. Holding my baby who’s asleep while typing shouldn’t be frowned upon but encouraged. Always second guessing myself for wearing my baby In an appointment shouldn’t run through my head instead be a no brainer because I’m doing what I’m passionate about... in multiple things. 

Ive worked before becoming a mom, ive stayed at home, I haven’t worked and only been a homemaker before having Van while I was pregnant, and now back to being an entrepreneur while having a baby. None are better than the other in fact they all have their pros and cons but what I’ve combed to realize by being a mom is you have to do what’s best for you and your family. If it’s staying at home wonderful, if it’s going back to work and hiring a nanny great but do you! 

You are no less of a mom if you work you’re no more of a mom if you stay at home, just do you and strive what your passionate for.